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Fighting to Improve Your Relationships!

Fighting – to Improve Your Relationships!

Conflict happens in all relationships.  Or if it doesn’t, someone may be hiding, denying, or otherwise not fully participating in a working relationship.  But conflict doesn’t have to be destructive – in fact, disagreement is exactly how we find out where our rough edges are and how we can polish them.  Talking through differences helps partners better understand each other and themselves, bringing maturity and depth to the relationship.  When couples fight, both individuals are probably speaking and thinking from their wounded child selves, which were shaped before they had language or any understanding of what was going on.  Kids are pretty good at fighting: they say exactly what they mean and how they feel and what they want you to do about it!  But…

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What Stress Can Do for You

Stress is a part of life for all of us, but it doesn’t have to be debilitating or damaging to mind or body.  Stress that is managed in healthy ways can be the force that pushes us toward growth and achieving our dreams.  On the other hand, unhealthy stress responses can lead to physical, mental, and emotional symptoms that feel bad, wear us down, and take all the joy out of living.  (Read more about that here.) While there are as many ways to relax and recharge as there are advice-givers, (including baths, sleeping, breathing, massage, sensory stimulation, friends, hobbies, pets, nature, writing, and reframing, among many others), dealing with the symptoms usually doesn’t address the root causes.  What it might do is help calm…

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GoodTherapy has a very informative article about stress, some of its symptoms and effects, and ways to manage them.  They mention the “fight or flight” response, which involves physical and mental changes, but recent research has suggested that there may be five or even as many as eight responses to stress, all starting with “f,” including fight, flight, freeze, fawn, “fine,” faint, flop, and friend. Some on that list seem like variations of others, but all are possible responses (along with others that don’t rhyme or start with f), and it can be useful to understand what they mean and how they can help or harm us, so we can develop better responses to the stressors in our own lives. It’s also interesting to note…

Little Things Count

Little Things Count – A Lot More Than You’d Expect

Would you like to make a positive impact in someone’s life but think it would probably take months, even years to bring that about?  Well, surprise!  Research has shown that as little as 30 seconds of kindness and compassion can actually change lives.   Most people don’t think much about the random acts of kindness they may do now and then – such small gestures cost little to nothing in time and money, but they bring joy to the ones who receive them, strengthening relationships and improving wellbeing.  And they’re also contagious – stop to let someone in front of you in traffic then watch behind you and you’ll probably see someone else doing the same thing!  Studies find that people greatly underestimate the value…

How Does Therapy Help with Anxiety

How Does Therapy Help with Anxiety?

The process of therapy uses multiple methods, depending on individual needs and situations.  Working with a therapist can help reduce or eliminate your anxiety through a variety of effective approaches, including these:  Understanding Causes   When people recognize and understand factors that contribute to their anxiety, they can work towards managing and even eliminating them.  Therapy helps you gain insight into the root causes of your anxiety, giving you back control over your life.  Building Coping Skills and Strategies   Therapy provides a safe and supportive environment to develop and practice healthy coping skills, along with cognitive-behavioral techniques that help to revise unhealthy thought patterns.  You’ll also learn about practical strategies including effective communication, problem solving, and stress management, which contribute to overall resilience and…

How to Tell Good Enough from Not Good Enough

How to Tell Good Enough from Not Good Enough

Have you ever noticed yourself feeling uncomfortable around some people or in some places when you’d been fine before that? Nothing major, just a queasiness in your stomach, maybe a pain in your back or tightness in your throat, or a sense of irritation, or gloom, or drained energy? Pay attention – that’s your intuitive sense telling you something not good for you is going on!  Your explaining mind will probably find ways to dismiss it or rationalize those feelings as something you ate or the fight you had with your bf/gf, or tell you to just get over it already, but if you listen to the wisdom of your intuitive mind you can tune in to the guidance that’s built into all of us….

The Invitation

The Invitation

This poem speaks to me of what it’s like to be real, to know yourself, to live authentically and to like who you are, regardless of what’s happening around you. I invite you to get comfortable and read it through, considering whether these are things you’d like to develop and work toward together. by Oriah Mountain Dreamer   It doesn’t interest mewhat you do for a living. I want to know what you ache forand if you dare to dreamof meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are.I want to knowif you will risklooking like a foolfor lovefor your dreamfor the adventure of being alive.  It doesn’t interest mewhat planets are squaring your moon…I want to knowif you have touchedthe centre of your own sorrowif…