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What Stress Can Do for You

Stress is a part of life for all of us, but it doesn’t have to be debilitating or damaging to mind or body. 

Stress that is managed in healthy ways can be the force that pushes us toward growth and achieving our dreams.  On the other hand, unhealthy stress responses can lead to physical, mental, and emotional symptoms that feel bad, wear us down, and take all the joy out of living.  (Read more about that here.)

While there are as many ways to relax and recharge as there are advice-givers, (including baths, sleeping, breathing, massage, sensory stimulation, friends, hobbies, pets, nature, writing, and reframing, among many others), dealing with the symptoms usually doesn’t address the root causes.  What it might do is help calm a turbulent mind enough to clear some space for recognizing what is really going on.  

Contrary to popular opinion, stress symptoms are actually protective, giving us signals about obstacles in our way or limitations holding us back from living fully. 

And no amount of lavender or alcohol or fur or sex will be enough to completely silence those signals, because they’re working FOR us – we’ve just been taught to treat them like the red traffic lights so many drivers ignore these days and blow right through, endangering themselves and everyone else around.  Why is it so hard for some people to accept even that little bit of accommodation to the greater good of society?  The same reason they use any means they can find to suppress and deny the persistent little inner voice – fear.  

Disguising itself as defiance, rage, contempt, hate, even sometimes nobility and generosity, fear is that clawed thing on the shoulder, hatched in childhood, squawking in our ears that we’re not good enough / too good for / not worthy of / never going to be / nothing / everything / nonexistent.  Many of us react with terror or fury or invisibility.  But what if we could hear in all that screeching the softer, subtler invitation to see from a higher ground and recognize the pain of a wounded thing, crying to be cared for and accepted as part of ourselves?  

To do that requires practice in simultaneously being and seeing ourselves, as if we were both the image on a screen and the audience watching it. 

This is doable because we all have a Center – the Self we come into this world with, who remains whole even as our personality selves are ping-ponging around collecting experience, dust, blood, and souvenirs.  And this is where a therapist trained in accessing that Self of wholeness can partner with you to untangle the knots of human life and weave the strands into something more beautifully YOU.  

If you’re ready to tame your demons, text or call me at 940-595-1444 and let’s talk about taking the next step!